Considering yesterday’s post I Guess, I’m Done
It was not Nicole who wrote the letter to my boss.
Yes I’m sure and I don’t blame her at all. Please stop making assumptions and let her breath.
Well, yesterday afternoon by boss called me to her office and showed the email from dogluver.com (something) it contained details about my ed, my blog and said that I was inappropriate for the given position as I am mean and mentally unstable person and it did contain links to Nicole blog’s posts as “Happy” and “Asylum” and “Analysis of CoffeeAddict”.
My boss just joked that she should have haired me as a writer/reporter instead of a stylist, because she kind of liked what I was writing on the internet. And asked me to follow the rules of the contract we’ve signed – this means absolute confidentiality of my work for the magazine.
I was embarrassed and angry, so firstly I emailed Nicole, though it was not her email, neither her IP number of that anonymous mail. And she was as horrified at this as I and many of you were.
Maybe one of her friends of followers tried to joke like this, but he/she made it worse for both of us.
My apology to Nicole, her friends and family.
My lunch is over. Time to create some beautiful things.
Take care, World.
Thank you, Greta.
I’m so sorry I’ve caused you so much pain.
Greta, you know my thoughts.. and I still think the same person as I thought before did this, even more so because of the email name, the free publicity of someone’s blog to your boss (NOT talking about yours, I hope she DOES make you a writer too, woo hoo!! well done
) and the fact that they seem to have been hanging out for your ‘retraction’.
Love you and am on your side always. xxxx
I’m sorry all this happened Greta you know i am a new reader of yours and i loved reading about your thoughts and emotions. I;m sorry someone would twist this new beginning for you. I guess life would be boring without little hiccups in the road. All my best i hope you enjoy what you do everyday!
This is the the most squirrelly bat eyed craziness I have ever heard nor could I ever have imagined.
Done by someone familiar with your blog, delusional about blog world and actually capable of dreaming up and doing something so….crazy!
Who do you know like that?
ah…well. They can sit with their own guilt and shame on their own whoever they are…bet they will end up regretting such a flat out WRONG and childish thing to do. If not now? One day. Though they never will admit it.
I really believe that things happen for a reason. Perhaps this had to happen so you can let go and focus on your new chapter. It’s just too bad that it had to end like this but based on the responses, you definitely left a beauty mark in this crazy blog world! When I have my coffee in the morning, I will be thinking of good thoughts thanks to you!
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I recommend you go through the comments for your previous post and remove all references to your place of work and change the image too. It’s not too hard to figure out and why risk it?
It’s incredibly clear to all who are familiar with both you and Nicole what has occurred, Greta. I hope you understand that nobody thinks less of you for this post and the obvious underlying reasons for it. This isn’t new behavior (manipulation, emotional blackmail) and please do not extend further apologies to friends and family of Nikki. There is not a single person related to her or acquainted with her who believes she has been wrongly accused. Not even Stephie is willing to extend the benefit of the doubt in this case because I assure you others in her closest network have been victimized in remarkably similar ways when Nicole’s jealousy and rage consume her.
There isn’t anyone else in the universe self aggrandizing enough to send links to their own writing to someone in magazine publishing in an effort to destroy someone else’s career. Remember also that Nicole writes and speaks non-stop about publicizing and advertising her blog ”business” (that nets no income) and the selfish motivation is notable and corresponds exactly with previous actions taken by Nicole.
To briefly address the (non)-issue of non-matching IP addresses, please recall that Nicole spent not a small amount of time when she was banned (from both her home and mobile IPs) from GOMI literally driving to different locations to reset her mobile IP while using different wifi networks. She has also commented several times about the use of proxy servers to meet her own narcissistic needs when she has (rightfully) been banned from other blogs of people like yourself who wish only to heal and recover.
Please take time to be as kind to yourself as you have been to those who not only aren’t deserving of but who have no mechanism through which to appreciate it.
Just wow! Way to respect the wishes of someone you “care” so much about.
What’s your deal ((and I’m addressing your whole little group)) with the need to disempower everybody? Outright vicious (like your following Nicole all over the web just to rip her apart ) or passive aggressive (in the way you are treating Greta because surely she is not able to think for herself and stand on her own two feet )
You’re attempts to manipulate a lovely young woman away from her path to contentment into your sewer of angst and hatred is despicable. Then you want to wrap it up in “love”.
Apologies to Greta for my first comment on your blog being of this nature. I cannot stand witch hunters…
Wow Shannon, what a way to disrespect Greta’s wishes. I have watched as you inappropriately spew negative and cruel comments towards Nicole on Greta’s blog. I can only imagine that this is just for the sake of tearing someone down. What a horribly sad existence you must have if you feel the need to be such a bully. If you care about Greta you have a really terrible way of showing it, and I feel bad for others that you “care” about. Who are you to be the judge and jury of people on the internet. If Greta is not blaming Nicole than who are to you say she is wrong. I don’t write negative things on blogs I read, but I cannot stomach bullies online or in real life. Accepting the ugliness of cyber-bullying is not something that I will ever do. We all have our own stories, but we are the courage to talk about ours. If I were you I would take a hard look at my own life and figure out what is causing all the misery.
I too apologize to Greta for this negativity and comment, but I too cannot abide witch hunters or bullies. From what I have come to know about Greta is that she celebrates the beauty in life, and in this hard time for her added ugliness is not something that she would like.
To look in the mirror and Liz, I’m sorry that it makes me appear nasty myself to agree with Shannon, not how she’s following this person around the net, and not the nastiness that her comments bring to other people’s pages. But so far, she has been the only person who has managed to make her back off when she’s been attacking myself or others. She is obviously someone in the family – we can easily tell Shannon is NOT EDmund/Brandon – and she’s obviously someone she defers to, because this Shannon person has the REAL dirt, she knows too much.
I take this comment as coming from someone who has seen this behaviour time and again – and is utterly tired and exhausted with it. Who is trying to prevent more hurt and pain being caused by a family member than already has been and this is perhaps the only way they think they can.
Remember, this person was BLACKMAILING Greta just a short while ago, to pretend to be her friend on her blog, and to allow her to comment on Greta’s. AND she has used other accounts to comment on Greta’s blog in the past just to get around the fact that Greta blacklisted her to spam her comments.
I hate all this nastiness and I wish that family members could take it off the net and work it out themselves, because this is affecting people all over the world and it’s highly inappropriate.
I’m not going to keep quiet and just sit and watch someone dear to me get hurt, AGAIN. If it means putting myself into the line of criticism here for standing by my opinion of who did this, then so be it. Deflecting it on to some ‘mysterious’ other person – is not helping anybody.
We also know from this person’s own blog her talk about using proxy servers and government servers to appear to be commenting from all over the world and appear to be different people – so don’t take it being a different email or IP address as not being her.
sorry – I meant that I don’t agree with the following her around the net and the nastiness that the comments bring!
This is really not a conversation I wish to continue. I am respecting Greta’s wishes of not placing blame on anyone for this. The only opinion and thoughts I am concerned about at all in this is Greta’s. I don’t condone bullying of any kind, and my parents taught me that if I don’t have anything nice to say to not say anything at all.
I adore Greta’s blog and consider it one of the only blogs in the ED community that I choose to read. She is a fabulous writer and I feel so lucky that I found her blog. Her employers are extremely lucky to have her talents on their staff, she will certainly make the pages of anything she styles beautiful. I commend her for taking all this in stride and being a grown up about everything. I respect her immensely and applaud her for her strength and courage in this whole situation.
I do agree with everything you have said.
Greta, kudos on what sounds like a job from heaven! All the skeletons fell out of the closet and it didn’t affect the relationship between you and your employer? Icing on the cake!!! All good luck to you!
Oh my gosh Greta, i have been away from the internet most of the time for the past fortnight (i too have got a new job although it is no where near as glamorous and interesting as yours) and all of this controversy just makes me want to step right back from blogland again.
And that’s a shame, because i love your blog. I was going to read all the post since i’ve been away but then the title ‘I Guess, I’m Done’ had me worried you were going to stop blogging. I’m so sorry that someone so heartless would try to tear you down like this. It’s shocking and disgusting, but i can’t help thinking it’s a HUGE compliment.
Someone i love recieved annonymous letters at their work place years ago, this person is a lot like you, very kind and unsuspecting, and they were accused of doing things that were impossible for them to have done. At the time, this person was so upset and deeply affected, but now they know that, unfortunately, these people who can’t feel empathy and warmth towards others do exist. It’s a shame when we have to run into them, and i admire Shannon for standing up to one, but it means that they are jealous.
Unfortunately, until you meet a person like this, you don’t believe that they exist. So now you’ve encountered one – because anyone with any emotion wouldn’t try to ruin a person’s career, especially someone who they only really know through the internet, and with nothing to gain for themselves except to witness someone’s misery – i really hope you don’t take it to heart.
I’m going to email you
xx
Dear Greta,
I’ve just read your last couple of posts and the comments
I am utterly gobsmacked that someone would sink so low as to send an email to your boss in an attempt to blacken your name
I hope you don’t feel you have to stop blogging but I understand if you do
My thoughts are with you lovely lady
Stay strong x
I’m so so sorry all this crap had to happen to you. Though I try to remain somewhat anonymous myself, I have a few friends that know I have this blog and it really is ridiculously easy to find (unfortunately). Mine could not possibly effect my job though (either of them). My only fear was that my significant other would find it, but since I’ve told him everything, he is not curious enough (and respects my privacy enough) to not go looking for it. Also, I was more afraid before I told him my feelings. Now we are an overly happy couple, so it doesn’t matter as much.
Why someone would choose to make a personal attack on you, I cannot fathom. You’ve been nothing but kind to everyone on here from what I can tell. I am glad that your boss seems so understanding and that your position there does not seem to be in peril because of all of this. What a cruel, evil thing to do to someone! It’s so easy to hide on the internet. Just pretend you’re someone else! Let THEM take the blame! What a piece of shit someone has to be to do that. I mean a real piece of shit. I do hope that you can continue to blog and help others! Keep that gorgeous chin of yours up!
Hey Greta, I am so sorry you’ve had to go through all this. You are a lovely person and I really like your blog. You don’t deserve to be going through all this shit. I’m really sorry this is happening to you. I guess there are some twisted individuals out there!
Stay strong and many hugs.
xxx
I can just say that I am very thankful that your boss reacted in such a cool way! I have too little background knowledge to assume who might have written that email. But the person who did it deserves my worst contempt.
Wow, I’m trying to catch up on my blog reading and come to all this. I really don’t have much to say, because I really don’t like all the drama and crazy, but it is indefensible that someone did this to you. I’m glad that your employer was so understanding.
I would hate to see you delete your new blog, because it is well-written and one of the very few ED-related blogs that doesn’t solely focus on eating disorders, but instead includes fashion and other interesting parts of life!
As I once read in a well-loved children’s book, “Least said, soonest mended.” (Meaning, of course, that it is better to move on than engage the crazy.)
Congratulations on the new job!
People say horrible things on the internet, just because they can’t see that there’s real people behind them. Sad but this is the truth. This must have gotten you so frustrated and angry though, I would have too. And so sorry, even if it weren’t my fault…but I hope you can move on now that you’ve cleared the air and do what really makes you happy!!!
Oh come on Greta, you really can’t be that blind. Of course it was Nicole. She is so jealous of you she cant stand it. You’re tall and pretty. She is short and ugly. You have long skinny legs. She has wrestler muscle legs. You are in fashion. She scoops poop for a living. You’ve always been clear about not being comfortable being public, hence you write in English. Nicole knew this and still published a comment with your last name just to piss you off. Then she called you a bitch. And she blackmailed you.
I just love your name!!! Makes me the happiest!
And I’d like to join! 
If I knew there was a contest, I’d happily resigned from it and lived in my own little world… I’m not better than anyone.
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