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After yesterday’s post I’ve got a really emotional letter from a girl who is overweight. I won’t re-post that sensitive story accompanied with so many exclamation and question marks – believe me, it is heart breaking. Therefore the summary of the letter was that I’m being slim have no right to preach the “Don’t Diet!” approach. But if I do – what are my tips and tricks for staying fit. Sigh.

I could definitely write down everything I eat during the week and my exercise routine – but those won’t work for you. You are not me.

The real trick in losing and maintaining weight loss is to engage with your illogical emotional mind.

If you are overweight, reaching and sustaining a healthy weight requires you to develop and embrace the patience and stamina of the long distance runner.  A sprint will get you far fast and then leave you exhausted in a heap, probably reaching for chocolate.

Scales, tape measures, and calorie journals make logical sense as weight loss program aids, but eating more than your body needs is not logical.  Eventually these aids feel like controlling abusers that require you to rebel. And when you rebel and gain weight you feel defeated. Skip the logical control systems and make friendly visits to your emotional and illogical self.

That’s what governs our emotional eating.

If you want to be lighter yet you eat in a way that makes you heavier then you have a conflict going on in your psyche.

The solution to conflict is peace.

Here’s how I began:

I wrote a journal in the morning and before I went to bed. (I know it sucks but I had to. Sometimes I wrote directly to my blog, but mostly on paper.) This reminded me of what I genuinely cared about and offered me nonfood solutions to my emotional needs.  My own words alerted my emotional self to the price I paid for going off my weight loss plan. Then I could discover and create plans for caring well for myself with life practices that did not include eating. You can too commit to fulfilling uses of your time. Living well instead of eating too much is your long distance practice.

Don’t wait to live the life you want until you’ve lost weight.  Go for what you want right now, before you lose weight and as you lose weight.  Being active in a life you care about while taking care of your emotional needs is the “trick” that will bring you to your healthy weight. This will give you more happiness and freedom than you can imagine. Can you befriend your illogical self?  A peaceful partnership within yourself can accomplish wonders and is the best “trick” in town.


PS I might be taking a break from my blog (some of you might seen it private yesterday) as my emotional self has become an easy target for strangers to make jokes over my life.